Here’s a great way for you to have some much needed alone adult time …. CAMP!
You want to send your child to camp so they have the opportunity to be with other kids, learn how to build relationships, and develop the skills to problem solve without a doctor, teacher, or their parent around (you know = the cocoon). It builds their confidence and independence while getting them some physical, mental, and emotional exercise.
The Americans with Disabilities Act (ADA) requires that all camps make reasonable accommodations so kids with special needs can attend. This being said, there are many types of camps your child can participate in. Some camps are mainstreamed (or inclusionary) so they are filled with mostly “average” kids and will need to adapt their activities for your child. Some camps are made specifically for special needs children, either by taking many different diagnoses or by focusing on specific issues (hearing and speech, sight, epilepsy, learning or behavioral, chronic illnesses, etc…). You may also see camps just for girls or just for boys.
Camps fall into many different categories. There are non-profits, for-profits, religious, private, national organizations, day camps, weekend camps, and sleepovers (for a week, month, or all summer). You will need to make a list of goals, health priorities, and outside considerations that will limit which camps are right for you and your child.
Be sure to involve your child in this decision! Ask them what they are looking for in a camp.
When researching for camps, check out the American Camp Association (ACA) at www.acacamps.org. Under Quick Links click on “Find a Camp”, then “Advance Search”, to see comparables like cost, camper’s ages, region, activities, length of stay, etc… I would speak to the camp directors about your child and any accommodations that would need to be made, as well as speaking to other parents whose children have attended the camp. Your child may want to speak to the other campers, who may have a different opinion than their parents on how great the camp really is. If you have a question, never hesitate to ask the staff or other parents!!
If cost is an issue, look into applying for scholarships to help pay for the camp admission. You can ask charities and fraternal organizations who sponsor special needs camps. There may even be some state funds available.
Can’t highly recommend camps more! It’s such a fabulous way to give both you and your child a break from the everyday doldrums.
Wednesday, May 27, 2009
Thursday, May 21, 2009
School Tips
School Tips
This week is a blunt truth blog. I want you to have the real buffet of information, not the imitation politically correct version. I’m warning you now the dose of reality is long and can be hard to swallow, but you’re a big girl and I know you’d rather have the truth to conquer than be stuck in sappy quicksand.
The number one fact you must understand is that school districts have budgets just like you and me. And there is always more needs, kids, and school days than there is money. Right now many districts are doing some major shuffling to keep as many services as they can. You may have to switch schools and teachers. It’s not fun for anyone involved, including the school staff.
So far we have covered IEP’s, 504’s, and LRE’s. For each of these three, you and the staff at the school will determine TOGETHER what is best for your child. You have to understand that there are limits to what schools can do. There are also practical constraints. If your child is in a wheelchair, obviously they will need extra time to get to and from class. This does not mean that the teacher must hold up the class to wait for your child. It means your kid will need to work out a way to get the info they missed and not do it by interrupting the rest of the class. There are 29 other students in the class who deserve an education too and your child is just one of many. I know they are special to you, but they are not more important, above all others, to anyone else. A teacher’s job is to educate ALL of the kids. Not to cater just to yours. That seems severe, and a slap in your face, because you love your child and they take up so much of your time and energy. Your kid IS important to their teacher, just not more important than Johnny and Suzie, and certainly no less important. If you have other children besides your SPED child, you should easily understand this reasoning. All kids are special, some just need more services for everyday living.
There is a huge difference between letting your child fail in order to learn how to get back up and not giving your child the tools to succeed. The school district is required to provide adequate tools for your child but they can’t make your child use the tools or to bend the rules so your child gets an “A”. This is a hard concept for many parents, especially those in the upper grades. Schools aren’t in the “feel good” business, that’s not in the job description. They want your child to love learning, like school enough to stay, and graduate with real skills, but they aren’t supposed to make the world a rainbow with flowers and smiley faces in the trees.
Even though your child has a disability, you can’t do your kid’s homework for them so they get a good grade, just to make them feel better (or you feel better). And you can’t ask for an extra week to complete a project they could easily get done in one day. If you do that, you are setting them up for big future failures! The real world doesn’t work that way. Their future boss isn’t going to care how big of a bubble you put them in – they expect your child to put in their time and effort to earn the paycheck. So what if they have to work harder than other kids? All people have difficulties to work past (and on the flip side, all people of some talents). The IEP will help monitor how much work they are doing to prove they have learned the lesson properly. Maybe they only have to do 10 math problems instead of 20. It’s the same work, just modified. The key word is MODIFICATION. Not deletion, or excuses, but modifying the lesson so the child can receive the same education as the other kids.
And let’s be real here. Your kid can probably do more than they are showing you. Teachers are trained to pull information out of students. They don’t see your kid as “your little pudding pop”. Remember, your job is to help them stand on their own, not to carry them forever. This task is easier for the teacher who is on the outside and has seen many other students.
My recommendation is to make sure you are assigned to a seasoned teacher ….someone who isn’t on their first or second year. New teachers are full of life and ideas, but since they don’t have a routine down yet, they are making frequent changes in the school day routine to see what works for them and that’s not good for SPED kids. I’m not doubting their abilities as teachers, I’m just being practical. Also, teachers, like any other profession, can get burned out. You can “interview” the teachers if you want, but just know that end-of-year and beginning-of-year are not the best of times for you to attempt that. Try for sometime in February.
Teaching styles are different for every teacher, so in the interview ask questions about their style. Are they strict about rules, are they laid back, are they stronger in one subject, what are their plans for field trips, what would they do if a child did ______? Now, hopefully, you’ll get an honest teacher who isn’t just smiling and telling you what you want to hear. Example: “I love children and will make all kinds of accommodations” when they really want to say “Look, I’m tired and want a year of easy kids.” You, of all people, should understand about needing a break. It’s nothing personal against your child. Just keep interviewing and you’ll find a teacher who is up for the challenge. You can then take your request for a specific teacher to the IEP meeting.
*Tip: don’t ask the principal about a teacher. #1 – the principal isn’t in the classroom everyday so doesn’t know exact details, and #2 – a principal’s job is half public relations so you’ll tend to get more “of course we’ll accommodate” when they themselves don’t have to be the teacher actually making it happen. Always start with the direct teachers first, then move to the principal if you don’t feel you are making headway with the teaching staff.
That said, you know your child best and the staff needs to know what tricks work best with your child. Make a list and bring it to the meetings. If he or she needs some quiet time every two hours, then say that. Most likely, your school can provide a space within a classroom or library for some quiet time. If your kiddo does better with a snack in the afternoon, you may have to provide the snack, but they can find a place and time to give it. If he or she needs a special bus for transportation to and from home or daycare, you need to be upfront about it. Does your kid have a special routine at home? If so, let everyone know it and they can try to mirror some of it at school, while you change your home routine to fit the school’s normal activities (eat at same time, quiet time, etc….). Everyone involved is going to have to COMPROMISE, including your child.
If your child is home with you, you need to start prepping for this in the summer! Find out who the teacher is and what their schedule is like. (By May the school already has assigned your child to a teacher for next year, but they might not tell you that in case something changes over the summer.) You can adapt your home schedule over the summer. This will make the beginning of the year so much easier!!! Each grade level and teacher have different lunch times, recess, etc… so sliding your lunch time up or back gradually over the summer will put your child way ahead in August.
Request (politely demand) that your child can go into the school to see their classroom and meet their new teacher BEFORE Back to School Night. That night is crazy! If you have a good teacher, they’ll meet you at the school early. If they won’t, you may want to question why. They could be in a continuing education class or a meeting for the district, or they may just be one of those teachers you don’t want.
If your child has a mental, emotional or social disability I suggest asking for a Triage each morning with a staff member. During this morning meeting, your child will find out if they have a substitute teacher, if the day will look different (fire drill), organize the papers in their backpacks, and see how their mood is. If they are in a funk mood, there is no point in continuing onto class and getting in trouble. The triage can halt the negative pattern so they can be successful the rest of the day. It could be any teacher in the building, but the SPED teacher would be ideal. He or she can then relate your child’s moods to the rest of the team and do extra checks on your kid if necessary that day.
If you haven’t already, you may want to consider getting some of the equipment that the therapists use for your home. All therapist have catalogs you can look at. One place for that is Early Childhood Manufactures Direct at www.ECMD.com. Even if you don’t order from them, they have great ideas for all ages for storage, toys, and helpful tools you can use to adapt your house that may be found at your local superstore or that you can make. Of course, there are other manufactures out there, so shop around.
A good suggestion one mom had was to get an advocate if you don’t feel your concerns are being taken seriously. There are organizations that help parents weed through the IEP process. Because you want to be able to have your advocate in the meetings with you, you will need to find one close to your hometown. If that isn’t possible, many will give you advice over the distance by phone or document. Some services are free, some charge, it all depends. A good place to find out more on advocacy is SNAP = Special Needs Advocate for Parents.
Don’t be surprised if your kids’ (average and SPED) grades drop in Middle and Jr. High School. This time is double tough! They are not babies, but not adults, no way of transportation, no job or money, yet they are expected to act like adults without the adult rewards (rewards as they see them. I don’t see a mortgage as a reward some days). Add all of these feelings to their disability and the usual social stigmas of raging hormones. YIKES!!! Grades are one of the few things these kids can control and they may let them slip to see the consequences. It doesn’t necessarily mean they aren’t learning. On the contrary, they are learning a lot about themselves (and probably some about the school work too).
If the pressure of school is too much, and many things are dropping besides grades, watch for signs of depression! Look for self mutilation, sleeping patterns changing, not taking their meds…. All are red flags of them trying to regain some sort of control. Control is a basic human emotional need. We all need to know the “how’s and why’s” in our world and there aren’t many answers when it comes to “Why me and this stupid disability?” Your kid doesn’t have enough maturity or life experiences to handle everything all at once. Keep the therapist’s phone number handy just in case (yours and theirs).
Each school year brings new changes to the whole family. If you are expecting the disruption you can handle it with better ease. Know that behaviors will erupt and will soon pass once the new routine becomes more comfortable. Know that your anxiety is felt by your kids in low vibrations so prepare your inner self for calm. You are a great woman! You now have more knowledge and power. Take it and run!
And if you are just at your wits end, next week we are talking about Summer Camps!
Heather
This week is a blunt truth blog. I want you to have the real buffet of information, not the imitation politically correct version. I’m warning you now the dose of reality is long and can be hard to swallow, but you’re a big girl and I know you’d rather have the truth to conquer than be stuck in sappy quicksand.
The number one fact you must understand is that school districts have budgets just like you and me. And there is always more needs, kids, and school days than there is money. Right now many districts are doing some major shuffling to keep as many services as they can. You may have to switch schools and teachers. It’s not fun for anyone involved, including the school staff.
So far we have covered IEP’s, 504’s, and LRE’s. For each of these three, you and the staff at the school will determine TOGETHER what is best for your child. You have to understand that there are limits to what schools can do. There are also practical constraints. If your child is in a wheelchair, obviously they will need extra time to get to and from class. This does not mean that the teacher must hold up the class to wait for your child. It means your kid will need to work out a way to get the info they missed and not do it by interrupting the rest of the class. There are 29 other students in the class who deserve an education too and your child is just one of many. I know they are special to you, but they are not more important, above all others, to anyone else. A teacher’s job is to educate ALL of the kids. Not to cater just to yours. That seems severe, and a slap in your face, because you love your child and they take up so much of your time and energy. Your kid IS important to their teacher, just not more important than Johnny and Suzie, and certainly no less important. If you have other children besides your SPED child, you should easily understand this reasoning. All kids are special, some just need more services for everyday living.
There is a huge difference between letting your child fail in order to learn how to get back up and not giving your child the tools to succeed. The school district is required to provide adequate tools for your child but they can’t make your child use the tools or to bend the rules so your child gets an “A”. This is a hard concept for many parents, especially those in the upper grades. Schools aren’t in the “feel good” business, that’s not in the job description. They want your child to love learning, like school enough to stay, and graduate with real skills, but they aren’t supposed to make the world a rainbow with flowers and smiley faces in the trees.
Even though your child has a disability, you can’t do your kid’s homework for them so they get a good grade, just to make them feel better (or you feel better). And you can’t ask for an extra week to complete a project they could easily get done in one day. If you do that, you are setting them up for big future failures! The real world doesn’t work that way. Their future boss isn’t going to care how big of a bubble you put them in – they expect your child to put in their time and effort to earn the paycheck. So what if they have to work harder than other kids? All people have difficulties to work past (and on the flip side, all people of some talents). The IEP will help monitor how much work they are doing to prove they have learned the lesson properly. Maybe they only have to do 10 math problems instead of 20. It’s the same work, just modified. The key word is MODIFICATION. Not deletion, or excuses, but modifying the lesson so the child can receive the same education as the other kids.
And let’s be real here. Your kid can probably do more than they are showing you. Teachers are trained to pull information out of students. They don’t see your kid as “your little pudding pop”. Remember, your job is to help them stand on their own, not to carry them forever. This task is easier for the teacher who is on the outside and has seen many other students.
My recommendation is to make sure you are assigned to a seasoned teacher ….someone who isn’t on their first or second year. New teachers are full of life and ideas, but since they don’t have a routine down yet, they are making frequent changes in the school day routine to see what works for them and that’s not good for SPED kids. I’m not doubting their abilities as teachers, I’m just being practical. Also, teachers, like any other profession, can get burned out. You can “interview” the teachers if you want, but just know that end-of-year and beginning-of-year are not the best of times for you to attempt that. Try for sometime in February.
Teaching styles are different for every teacher, so in the interview ask questions about their style. Are they strict about rules, are they laid back, are they stronger in one subject, what are their plans for field trips, what would they do if a child did ______? Now, hopefully, you’ll get an honest teacher who isn’t just smiling and telling you what you want to hear. Example: “I love children and will make all kinds of accommodations” when they really want to say “Look, I’m tired and want a year of easy kids.” You, of all people, should understand about needing a break. It’s nothing personal against your child. Just keep interviewing and you’ll find a teacher who is up for the challenge. You can then take your request for a specific teacher to the IEP meeting.
*Tip: don’t ask the principal about a teacher. #1 – the principal isn’t in the classroom everyday so doesn’t know exact details, and #2 – a principal’s job is half public relations so you’ll tend to get more “of course we’ll accommodate” when they themselves don’t have to be the teacher actually making it happen. Always start with the direct teachers first, then move to the principal if you don’t feel you are making headway with the teaching staff.
That said, you know your child best and the staff needs to know what tricks work best with your child. Make a list and bring it to the meetings. If he or she needs some quiet time every two hours, then say that. Most likely, your school can provide a space within a classroom or library for some quiet time. If your kiddo does better with a snack in the afternoon, you may have to provide the snack, but they can find a place and time to give it. If he or she needs a special bus for transportation to and from home or daycare, you need to be upfront about it. Does your kid have a special routine at home? If so, let everyone know it and they can try to mirror some of it at school, while you change your home routine to fit the school’s normal activities (eat at same time, quiet time, etc….). Everyone involved is going to have to COMPROMISE, including your child.
If your child is home with you, you need to start prepping for this in the summer! Find out who the teacher is and what their schedule is like. (By May the school already has assigned your child to a teacher for next year, but they might not tell you that in case something changes over the summer.) You can adapt your home schedule over the summer. This will make the beginning of the year so much easier!!! Each grade level and teacher have different lunch times, recess, etc… so sliding your lunch time up or back gradually over the summer will put your child way ahead in August.
Request (politely demand) that your child can go into the school to see their classroom and meet their new teacher BEFORE Back to School Night. That night is crazy! If you have a good teacher, they’ll meet you at the school early. If they won’t, you may want to question why. They could be in a continuing education class or a meeting for the district, or they may just be one of those teachers you don’t want.
If your child has a mental, emotional or social disability I suggest asking for a Triage each morning with a staff member. During this morning meeting, your child will find out if they have a substitute teacher, if the day will look different (fire drill), organize the papers in their backpacks, and see how their mood is. If they are in a funk mood, there is no point in continuing onto class and getting in trouble. The triage can halt the negative pattern so they can be successful the rest of the day. It could be any teacher in the building, but the SPED teacher would be ideal. He or she can then relate your child’s moods to the rest of the team and do extra checks on your kid if necessary that day.
If you haven’t already, you may want to consider getting some of the equipment that the therapists use for your home. All therapist have catalogs you can look at. One place for that is Early Childhood Manufactures Direct at www.ECMD.com. Even if you don’t order from them, they have great ideas for all ages for storage, toys, and helpful tools you can use to adapt your house that may be found at your local superstore or that you can make. Of course, there are other manufactures out there, so shop around.
A good suggestion one mom had was to get an advocate if you don’t feel your concerns are being taken seriously. There are organizations that help parents weed through the IEP process. Because you want to be able to have your advocate in the meetings with you, you will need to find one close to your hometown. If that isn’t possible, many will give you advice over the distance by phone or document. Some services are free, some charge, it all depends. A good place to find out more on advocacy is SNAP = Special Needs Advocate for Parents.
Don’t be surprised if your kids’ (average and SPED) grades drop in Middle and Jr. High School. This time is double tough! They are not babies, but not adults, no way of transportation, no job or money, yet they are expected to act like adults without the adult rewards (rewards as they see them. I don’t see a mortgage as a reward some days). Add all of these feelings to their disability and the usual social stigmas of raging hormones. YIKES!!! Grades are one of the few things these kids can control and they may let them slip to see the consequences. It doesn’t necessarily mean they aren’t learning. On the contrary, they are learning a lot about themselves (and probably some about the school work too).
If the pressure of school is too much, and many things are dropping besides grades, watch for signs of depression! Look for self mutilation, sleeping patterns changing, not taking their meds…. All are red flags of them trying to regain some sort of control. Control is a basic human emotional need. We all need to know the “how’s and why’s” in our world and there aren’t many answers when it comes to “Why me and this stupid disability?” Your kid doesn’t have enough maturity or life experiences to handle everything all at once. Keep the therapist’s phone number handy just in case (yours and theirs).
Each school year brings new changes to the whole family. If you are expecting the disruption you can handle it with better ease. Know that behaviors will erupt and will soon pass once the new routine becomes more comfortable. Know that your anxiety is felt by your kids in low vibrations so prepare your inner self for calm. You are a great woman! You now have more knowledge and power. Take it and run!
And if you are just at your wits end, next week we are talking about Summer Camps!
Heather
Wednesday, May 13, 2009
School Vocab - LRE
5-14-09
School Vocab LRE
To continue our vocabulary lesson, “LRE” is Least Restrictive Environment. This is the biggest stickler and fighting point you’ll read or hear about from other SPED parents. The concept is to place your child in a situation that is the least restrictive for their learning = where they can blossom the most. Each child’s abilities will determine their own LRE. Here are a few different scenarios:
*In most cases, LRE means spending most of the school day in the regular education classroom, like everyone else, with some accommodations. That is called “mainstreaming” or “inclusive”. The accommodations could be as simple as having an aid to help with motor skills or a certain seat.
*The LRE could mean being pulled out of their normal classroom for some special classes in another room (usually the SPED room or a “resource” room) a few times a day or week, working on specific skills. For example: a child with Aspergers may be pulled out to work on social skills with a small group.
*For some, the LRE is being in the SPED room with 2-4 other children for all day specialized instruction. This is a “self-contained class”.
*Finally, there are some children who need an alternative school. You need to check your fears in place here – you heard “alternative school” and your anxiety raised – don’t think I don’t know. It’s not the fault of you or the child, but their actions may not make it best for your child to be in a regular school. The alternative schools can provide even more attention as they do not have to educate the masses of kids in the district.
If you Google, or read enough parent chat forums, you’ll probably find someone complaining about LRE. Like all topics, there are some horror stories that get a lot of attention, but they aren’t the norm. Schools aren’t perfect, people aren’t perfect, nobody owes anyone anything. We are a community making sure all of the people in the community are raised up in honor. If you don’t agree with the school’s recommendation for LRE, get another opinion. (Another school district’s procedure, an outside advocate, etc…) Sometimes the district needs some fresh ideas on LRE that an outsider can bring and sometimes they need a gentle nudge to know you are serious. I won’t lie, squeaky wheels get serviced. But similar to you dealing with your kids, use your trump cards wisely with the school.
Next week will be the last segment of school tips until August. I just want you to have all the info you can while the schools are in decision-making mode. Procrastination is not your friend here! Ask now for what you want in summer school and for the next school year. Be the first to ask and your request is more likely to be thought of when money is being allocated…just like your home budget.
Heather
School Vocab LRE
To continue our vocabulary lesson, “LRE” is Least Restrictive Environment. This is the biggest stickler and fighting point you’ll read or hear about from other SPED parents. The concept is to place your child in a situation that is the least restrictive for their learning = where they can blossom the most. Each child’s abilities will determine their own LRE. Here are a few different scenarios:
*In most cases, LRE means spending most of the school day in the regular education classroom, like everyone else, with some accommodations. That is called “mainstreaming” or “inclusive”. The accommodations could be as simple as having an aid to help with motor skills or a certain seat.
*The LRE could mean being pulled out of their normal classroom for some special classes in another room (usually the SPED room or a “resource” room) a few times a day or week, working on specific skills. For example: a child with Aspergers may be pulled out to work on social skills with a small group.
*For some, the LRE is being in the SPED room with 2-4 other children for all day specialized instruction. This is a “self-contained class”.
*Finally, there are some children who need an alternative school. You need to check your fears in place here – you heard “alternative school” and your anxiety raised – don’t think I don’t know. It’s not the fault of you or the child, but their actions may not make it best for your child to be in a regular school. The alternative schools can provide even more attention as they do not have to educate the masses of kids in the district.
If you Google, or read enough parent chat forums, you’ll probably find someone complaining about LRE. Like all topics, there are some horror stories that get a lot of attention, but they aren’t the norm. Schools aren’t perfect, people aren’t perfect, nobody owes anyone anything. We are a community making sure all of the people in the community are raised up in honor. If you don’t agree with the school’s recommendation for LRE, get another opinion. (Another school district’s procedure, an outside advocate, etc…) Sometimes the district needs some fresh ideas on LRE that an outsider can bring and sometimes they need a gentle nudge to know you are serious. I won’t lie, squeaky wheels get serviced. But similar to you dealing with your kids, use your trump cards wisely with the school.
Next week will be the last segment of school tips until August. I just want you to have all the info you can while the schools are in decision-making mode. Procrastination is not your friend here! Ask now for what you want in summer school and for the next school year. Be the first to ask and your request is more likely to be thought of when money is being allocated…just like your home budget.
Heather
Thursday, May 7, 2009
School Vocab - 504 plan
School Vocabulary 504 plan
A 504 is actually Section 504 of the Rehabilitation Act and the Americans with Disabilities Act (ADA). Section 504 is a civil rights law to protect people with disabilities from discrimination because of their disability. There should be a 504 coordinator (usually a vise principal or counselor, but probably not the special education teacher) and a team like the IEP team to help with the accommodations.
Notice that a 504 is not something that guarantees your kid will have an IEP. This is separate. A 504 is basic accommodations to help override an impairment so your child can have the same public education as everyone else….this is not an individualized plan for educational learning…in other words, this is not to accommodate mental or emotional disabilities that effect learning, but accommodations for physical surroundings. For example: your child is partially deaf in their left ear. They can have a 504 plan that states they need to sit in a certain spot in the classroom. That’s it. The kid then has to perform up to the teacher’s standards and receive the grades they EARNED like everyone else.
I have children with each plan. My son with Asperger’s has an IEP, and my daughter with brittle bones has a 504, of which will follow them to college if need be. They both have an adapted day at school with special services. Both plans look and work very similar, but the legal paperwork is slightly different.
In most states, there are programs for children ages 0-3 where you can begin therapies (First Steps, Early Intervention, etc.). You can ask about these at your County Health Department. Starting at age 3, most school districts have an Early Childhood Program you can begin the legal IEP/504 process with to receive therapy and additional help in a half day pre-school class. Start as early as you can to find services! Many times the people at the County Health Department, and at the school district, know of other organizations you can utilize as well if you need adaptive equipment in your home.
Always remember that you are never alone. I know it feels like it, and your chest can hurt with the pain, but the reality is that there are many people who can, and want to, help if you ask. We can find a way together!
Heather
A 504 is actually Section 504 of the Rehabilitation Act and the Americans with Disabilities Act (ADA). Section 504 is a civil rights law to protect people with disabilities from discrimination because of their disability. There should be a 504 coordinator (usually a vise principal or counselor, but probably not the special education teacher) and a team like the IEP team to help with the accommodations.
Notice that a 504 is not something that guarantees your kid will have an IEP. This is separate. A 504 is basic accommodations to help override an impairment so your child can have the same public education as everyone else….this is not an individualized plan for educational learning…in other words, this is not to accommodate mental or emotional disabilities that effect learning, but accommodations for physical surroundings. For example: your child is partially deaf in their left ear. They can have a 504 plan that states they need to sit in a certain spot in the classroom. That’s it. The kid then has to perform up to the teacher’s standards and receive the grades they EARNED like everyone else.
I have children with each plan. My son with Asperger’s has an IEP, and my daughter with brittle bones has a 504, of which will follow them to college if need be. They both have an adapted day at school with special services. Both plans look and work very similar, but the legal paperwork is slightly different.
In most states, there are programs for children ages 0-3 where you can begin therapies (First Steps, Early Intervention, etc.). You can ask about these at your County Health Department. Starting at age 3, most school districts have an Early Childhood Program you can begin the legal IEP/504 process with to receive therapy and additional help in a half day pre-school class. Start as early as you can to find services! Many times the people at the County Health Department, and at the school district, know of other organizations you can utilize as well if you need adaptive equipment in your home.
Always remember that you are never alone. I know it feels like it, and your chest can hurt with the pain, but the reality is that there are many people who can, and want to, help if you ask. We can find a way together!
Heather
Thursday, April 30, 2009
School Vocab - IEP
School Vocabulary – IEP
This is the time of year that school districts are testing kids and preparing for the next school year. Their budgets start over July 1st and they will know how much money they have and what services are needed to start the new year in August. I’m not saying they have enough money but they at least have a budget on paper.
Your child will spend just as much, if not more, time in a school setting each day than you do at work. For this reason, you need to pick your school district carefully. Yes, I’m saying you may need to move. Or you could choose a private school. Or you may need to join a co-op of home-schooling parents. I DO NOT recommend you home school by yourself. You shouldn’t be the center of your child’s life 24/7 – as they shouldn’t be yours. You can gather a group of home schooling parents together and each teach different lessons, but give the local school district a fair shot first. You could be very happily surprised at the amount of resources they have!
Now, you need to know that as SPecial EDucation directors at the district level change within the district, so will the type of services you get. The school district would like to say otherwise, but it’s true. If you have a great SPED director, then the program gets what it needs (money, staff, equipment, etc…) from the top down because the director is fighting for it and coming up with creative ways to get it. If you have a director who is just going through the motions and earning a paycheck, then things are different. Schools are not holier-than-thou places. They run like any other business. So, depending on who is in charge, depends on how good the SPED department is….and that can change over the years. I knew a couple who worked for the city government and had to live within city limits, but “separated” and paid for an apartment in another school district to get better SPED services once their favorite SPED director retired and was replaced. You may be shaking your head, but it’s reality.
The first school SPED lesson is vocabulary. You need to understand the terms and process of IEP’s and 504’s. I feel you need to know the basic terms because you’ll find that the education world uses a lot of acronyms. Knowledge is power! This week is the IEP.
An IEP is an Individual Education Plan. This plan came out of the Individuals with Disabilities Act (IDEA). It is the framework for your child’s day at school and the services they need to receive. Your child must qualify under state and federal criteria to have an IEP; it’s not just a given because they have a disability (this means a day’s worth of testing). All decisions for your child are made by the IEP team which consists of parents, teachers, therapists, a case manager (usually the special education teacher), and a district representative (usually an administrator in the building). No decisions can be made, or actions taken, without the signatures and agreement of every person on the team.
At the meeting your child’s test results will be given to you and what adaptations the district feels will be necessary so your child can get a full education. The meeting will take about an hour because the documents will be read to you and all educational jargon explained in plain English. This is, sad to say, protection for the district, but also for you. If you have ANY concerns, thoughts, or ideas, you MUST speak up during the meeting and have it documented. This isn’t the time for shyness. Be calm, clear, and open to suggestions. Work WITH the district to find compromises and solutions if need be.
If you find later in the school year that your child’s IEP isn’t being followed, bring it to your case manager’s attention with a phone call, note, or email. It may be your child is doing okay without the accommodation, or that the staff needs a re-fresher. Rarely is the staff blatantly refusing to follow the IEP. Remember they are trying to educate 300-1500 children each day. You know how tough your day is - they are doing the best they can. They sure as heck aren’t doing it for the money.
If the gentle reminder doesn’t work, work up the chain of command. Go to the principal, then the SPED director, then you may need to get an advocate (more about that later).
Being prepared is part of your job as mom, but also a foundation of you as a woman. You will have more time for yourself, to recharge your soul, and that’s the strength and peace I want to see in you. It’s why I write for you and love to hear from you. Next week I’ll talk about 504 plans, the sister to IEP’s, and the week after LRE’s (Least Restrictive Environments). Before summer begins you will be ready for next school year!
Heather
This is the time of year that school districts are testing kids and preparing for the next school year. Their budgets start over July 1st and they will know how much money they have and what services are needed to start the new year in August. I’m not saying they have enough money but they at least have a budget on paper.
Your child will spend just as much, if not more, time in a school setting each day than you do at work. For this reason, you need to pick your school district carefully. Yes, I’m saying you may need to move. Or you could choose a private school. Or you may need to join a co-op of home-schooling parents. I DO NOT recommend you home school by yourself. You shouldn’t be the center of your child’s life 24/7 – as they shouldn’t be yours. You can gather a group of home schooling parents together and each teach different lessons, but give the local school district a fair shot first. You could be very happily surprised at the amount of resources they have!
Now, you need to know that as SPecial EDucation directors at the district level change within the district, so will the type of services you get. The school district would like to say otherwise, but it’s true. If you have a great SPED director, then the program gets what it needs (money, staff, equipment, etc…) from the top down because the director is fighting for it and coming up with creative ways to get it. If you have a director who is just going through the motions and earning a paycheck, then things are different. Schools are not holier-than-thou places. They run like any other business. So, depending on who is in charge, depends on how good the SPED department is….and that can change over the years. I knew a couple who worked for the city government and had to live within city limits, but “separated” and paid for an apartment in another school district to get better SPED services once their favorite SPED director retired and was replaced. You may be shaking your head, but it’s reality.
The first school SPED lesson is vocabulary. You need to understand the terms and process of IEP’s and 504’s. I feel you need to know the basic terms because you’ll find that the education world uses a lot of acronyms. Knowledge is power! This week is the IEP.
An IEP is an Individual Education Plan. This plan came out of the Individuals with Disabilities Act (IDEA). It is the framework for your child’s day at school and the services they need to receive. Your child must qualify under state and federal criteria to have an IEP; it’s not just a given because they have a disability (this means a day’s worth of testing). All decisions for your child are made by the IEP team which consists of parents, teachers, therapists, a case manager (usually the special education teacher), and a district representative (usually an administrator in the building). No decisions can be made, or actions taken, without the signatures and agreement of every person on the team.
At the meeting your child’s test results will be given to you and what adaptations the district feels will be necessary so your child can get a full education. The meeting will take about an hour because the documents will be read to you and all educational jargon explained in plain English. This is, sad to say, protection for the district, but also for you. If you have ANY concerns, thoughts, or ideas, you MUST speak up during the meeting and have it documented. This isn’t the time for shyness. Be calm, clear, and open to suggestions. Work WITH the district to find compromises and solutions if need be.
If you find later in the school year that your child’s IEP isn’t being followed, bring it to your case manager’s attention with a phone call, note, or email. It may be your child is doing okay without the accommodation, or that the staff needs a re-fresher. Rarely is the staff blatantly refusing to follow the IEP. Remember they are trying to educate 300-1500 children each day. You know how tough your day is - they are doing the best they can. They sure as heck aren’t doing it for the money.
If the gentle reminder doesn’t work, work up the chain of command. Go to the principal, then the SPED director, then you may need to get an advocate (more about that later).
Being prepared is part of your job as mom, but also a foundation of you as a woman. You will have more time for yourself, to recharge your soul, and that’s the strength and peace I want to see in you. It’s why I write for you and love to hear from you. Next week I’ll talk about 504 plans, the sister to IEP’s, and the week after LRE’s (Least Restrictive Environments). Before summer begins you will be ready for next school year!
Heather
Thursday, April 23, 2009
Goals part 2
Well, this has been quite the week! I’m amazed at how much junk I collect just because I can’t let go of the “Perfect Wife and Mother” title and the “always-be-prepared-so-keep-everything” motto. I wish I could say “my recycling boxes are full to the brim, my shredder’s motor is whining from overuse, and there is a pile in my basement waiting for Big Brother Big Sisters to pick up” but I can’t. I started with the overgrown vinca in my front yard and that project alone took most of the week. Manual labor isn’t easy to do when you must keep stopping to take care of your child’s needs. So, I’m adjusting. My goals are still there, new due dates are set, and 49 more things will be throw out little by little.
Mentally and emotionally, this goal to chuck 50 things is in no way an easy project to do. I needed a little shove, so I took my mortgage payment and divide it by my square footage. It’s an eye opener to see how much you are paying each month to store (more like horde) stuff. Now those old job files and college textbooks that are were costing me $75 a month are not looking so much like cherishable items. I want them gone and serenity is in their places. I want peace. I want the freedom to be the real me.
As promised, here are some goals of my mom cohorts:
GOAL: Run a marathon
STEPS: she found one for a charity she was passionate about and signed up (the first big hurtle). Now she’s getting donations and training each day, no matter what time she can get out of the house. Its half way across the country and she’s decided she doesn’t want anyone there at the finish line because this is her run, her goal, and will be her triumph. DUE: October 2009
GOAL: Visit Italy
STEPS: she’s adjusted her budget and giving up some of the extra things (like lattes) so she can watch her vacation nest egg grow. She’s bought the travel books and once a week studies a new part of the country. She’s not leaving for another year, but has borrowed videos from the library and has started to learn the language.
DUE: September 2010
GOAL: Taking a stripper’s pole dancing class.
STEPS: this isn’t offered in her town, so a mini vacation and on-line ordering are necessary. She wants to feel sexy, and have the amazing strength and flexibility to do the moves. She has bought some yoga and Pilate videos to start her training. (The poles are portable so your grandma won’t see it when she visits if you don’t want.)
DUE: January 2010
GOAL: Starting her own business.
STEPS: she has the background info of costs of inventory, lease and utilities, insurance, wages for employees, etc… At this time, it’s not financially feasible, but her goal is to have her store open by her 45th birthday, when her kids are old enough to have different daily care and she can be at her store.
DUE: June 2014
GOAL: Obtaining a master’s degree.
STEPS: she is taking classes, one at a time, each fall semester while her children are young. In two years, she’ll increase that to one each semester. With books, each class costs approximately $1000, so she is paying each class as it comes with money she is making part time. She has 1 of 13 classes done.
DUE: May 2012
GOAL: Gardening.
STEPS: each winter she plans for spending her $50 budget. She knows what colors and heights she needs, and scours the Internet to find just the perfect plants. Sometimes she buys locally, sometimes more exotic, but she adds something new each planting season according to the map she drew up 4 years ago of her dream garden.
DUE: continuous
GOAL: Write a story that could be made into a screenplay.
STEPS: her goal is to write two paragraphs each day. Some days she can get in a whole chapter of thoughts. Next Christmas is her finish goal to send it to an agent.
DUE: December 2009
GOAL: Get a boob job.
STEPS: she has researched on the internet (Nicole’s site www.implantinfo.com is her favorite) and interviewed many women. She is saving her money and will schedule the appointment to have surgery on her 40th birthday, when she no longer will have as much of the daily carrying of her child or their equipment. She isn’t looking to be porn star big, just to get back what she lost and perk her “girls” up.
DUE: May 2009
GOAL: Take a spa retreat.
STEPS: This mom has been researching packages from different locations, comparing services that are included, services that are “add-ons”, prices, ease and expense of travel, activities offered, and menus. She’s been asking for money for her birthday and Christmas, instead of gifts, for 3 years and will be able to take her retreat in the fall once her last child is in school full time.
DUE: September 2011
GOAL: Shed the SPED weight.
STEPS: she calls it that because it’s more than baby weight. Her child needs round the clock care and she can’t get out to work it off as a single mom. She found a personal trainer at her church who is donating their time to her once a month. During the workouts at her home, she receives the proper way to do the exercises and a list of sneaky ways to fit it all in during a typical day (which we know isn’t by any means “typical” when her autistic son changes his preference of color out of left field and she doesn’t have any of the new color readily available in food choices – what lunch is available in carnation blue?). So far, she’s 4 pounds closer to her goal.
DUE: ongoing until she reaches her magic number (which I didn’t ask)
Whatever your dreams may be, turn them into goals! Long term or short, you need to have hope in your heart to pull you through the days than can torment your sanity. It is easier to believe in yourself when you have accomplishments under your belt. If you feel like a failure, you are going to act like one. Yes, that’s harsh, but I’m not here to pussy-foot around with you.
Before you begin writing goals, list out all of your accomplishments for today, this week, this year. Did you get out of bed? Did you successfully get everyone to school or therapy? Did you not run away screaming? Write it all down!!! Reread your list every day. Believe in yourself! I believe in you!!
Now for your goals….
Your Goal: ___________________________________________
Step 1: ______________________________________________
Step 2: ______________________________________________
Step 3: ______________________________________________
DUE DATE: __________________________________________
Your Goal: ___________________________________________
Step 1: ______________________________________________
Step 2: ______________________________________________
Step 3: ______________________________________________
DUE DATE: __________________________________________
Mentally and emotionally, this goal to chuck 50 things is in no way an easy project to do. I needed a little shove, so I took my mortgage payment and divide it by my square footage. It’s an eye opener to see how much you are paying each month to store (more like horde) stuff. Now those old job files and college textbooks that are were costing me $75 a month are not looking so much like cherishable items. I want them gone and serenity is in their places. I want peace. I want the freedom to be the real me.
As promised, here are some goals of my mom cohorts:
GOAL: Run a marathon
STEPS: she found one for a charity she was passionate about and signed up (the first big hurtle). Now she’s getting donations and training each day, no matter what time she can get out of the house. Its half way across the country and she’s decided she doesn’t want anyone there at the finish line because this is her run, her goal, and will be her triumph. DUE: October 2009
GOAL: Visit Italy
STEPS: she’s adjusted her budget and giving up some of the extra things (like lattes) so she can watch her vacation nest egg grow. She’s bought the travel books and once a week studies a new part of the country. She’s not leaving for another year, but has borrowed videos from the library and has started to learn the language.
DUE: September 2010
GOAL: Taking a stripper’s pole dancing class.
STEPS: this isn’t offered in her town, so a mini vacation and on-line ordering are necessary. She wants to feel sexy, and have the amazing strength and flexibility to do the moves. She has bought some yoga and Pilate videos to start her training. (The poles are portable so your grandma won’t see it when she visits if you don’t want.)
DUE: January 2010
GOAL: Starting her own business.
STEPS: she has the background info of costs of inventory, lease and utilities, insurance, wages for employees, etc… At this time, it’s not financially feasible, but her goal is to have her store open by her 45th birthday, when her kids are old enough to have different daily care and she can be at her store.
DUE: June 2014
GOAL: Obtaining a master’s degree.
STEPS: she is taking classes, one at a time, each fall semester while her children are young. In two years, she’ll increase that to one each semester. With books, each class costs approximately $1000, so she is paying each class as it comes with money she is making part time. She has 1 of 13 classes done.
DUE: May 2012
GOAL: Gardening.
STEPS: each winter she plans for spending her $50 budget. She knows what colors and heights she needs, and scours the Internet to find just the perfect plants. Sometimes she buys locally, sometimes more exotic, but she adds something new each planting season according to the map she drew up 4 years ago of her dream garden.
DUE: continuous
GOAL: Write a story that could be made into a screenplay.
STEPS: her goal is to write two paragraphs each day. Some days she can get in a whole chapter of thoughts. Next Christmas is her finish goal to send it to an agent.
DUE: December 2009
GOAL: Get a boob job.
STEPS: she has researched on the internet (Nicole’s site www.implantinfo.com is her favorite) and interviewed many women. She is saving her money and will schedule the appointment to have surgery on her 40th birthday, when she no longer will have as much of the daily carrying of her child or their equipment. She isn’t looking to be porn star big, just to get back what she lost and perk her “girls” up.
DUE: May 2009
GOAL: Take a spa retreat.
STEPS: This mom has been researching packages from different locations, comparing services that are included, services that are “add-ons”, prices, ease and expense of travel, activities offered, and menus. She’s been asking for money for her birthday and Christmas, instead of gifts, for 3 years and will be able to take her retreat in the fall once her last child is in school full time.
DUE: September 2011
GOAL: Shed the SPED weight.
STEPS: she calls it that because it’s more than baby weight. Her child needs round the clock care and she can’t get out to work it off as a single mom. She found a personal trainer at her church who is donating their time to her once a month. During the workouts at her home, she receives the proper way to do the exercises and a list of sneaky ways to fit it all in during a typical day (which we know isn’t by any means “typical” when her autistic son changes his preference of color out of left field and she doesn’t have any of the new color readily available in food choices – what lunch is available in carnation blue?). So far, she’s 4 pounds closer to her goal.
DUE: ongoing until she reaches her magic number (which I didn’t ask)
Whatever your dreams may be, turn them into goals! Long term or short, you need to have hope in your heart to pull you through the days than can torment your sanity. It is easier to believe in yourself when you have accomplishments under your belt. If you feel like a failure, you are going to act like one. Yes, that’s harsh, but I’m not here to pussy-foot around with you.
Before you begin writing goals, list out all of your accomplishments for today, this week, this year. Did you get out of bed? Did you successfully get everyone to school or therapy? Did you not run away screaming? Write it all down!!! Reread your list every day. Believe in yourself! I believe in you!!
Now for your goals….
Your Goal: ___________________________________________
Step 1: ______________________________________________
Step 2: ______________________________________________
Step 3: ______________________________________________
DUE DATE: __________________________________________
Your Goal: ___________________________________________
Step 1: ______________________________________________
Step 2: ______________________________________________
Step 3: ______________________________________________
DUE DATE: __________________________________________
Friday, April 17, 2009
Goals
GOALS – THE LOFTIER THE BETTER
“Cautious, careful people always casting about to preserve their reputation or social standards never can bring about reform. Those who are really in earnest are willing to be anything or nothing in the world’s estimation…and bear the consequences.”
-Susan B. Anthony
Goals. You need them more than the average person. Some days the goal is to not collapse. Some days to not drain your bank account and run away. Those are very worthy goals but short term (though it feels like an eternity that day) in the grand scheme of life. I want you to just sit for a few silent minutes of no TV, no kids, no dog, no partner, no washing machine, and no cell phone. Now close your eyes. Dream. It doesn’t matter if your dreams seem unrealistic or how big or small they are. They’re your dreams….let them flow!
“Without leaps of imagination, or dreaming, we lose the excitement of possibilities. Dreaming, after all, is a form of planning.” — Gloria Steinem
You may have to do this exercise outside of your home or job. I use my minivan a lot for thinking – just pull over (someplace safe, please) and write. Are you ready? Here we go!
1. What do you want to accomplish?
2. What would you like to try (just try, not become an expert)?
3. What do you look like doing those things?
Picture exactly what you are wearing, what the weather is like, how much light there is, what your muscles feel like doing the activity, your breathing, what can you smell, what do your fingertips and toes touch, what is the taste in your mouth. Become alive inside of your dream. Make it real.
Now write it all down (better to open your eyes for this). Every detail goes on the paper. For each dream, start a new sheet of paper (sorry to Mother Earth and the trees, but this is your life or death moment – you will die on the inside if you don’t have dreams and goals).
The difference between a dream and a goal are action steps. Dreams don’t come true unless you make an effort. Mini steps get you moving forward. There doesn’t have to be a rigid time frame, because in reality, we don’t know exactly what’s coming up for our kids (another luxury your “average” parents have in their blessings column) but you can work towards a date and adjust as needed down the line. The important thing is the Goal Due Date is set and the mini steps are laid out.
For example: if you want to visit Paris next year your first step is to set the date of your departure. Next answer the “who, what, and where”. Do you want to take someone with you? (You don’t have to, it’s not a law) Studying the travel books can give you ideas of where you’d like to stay and what you want to see. Some people like to work backwards on the calendar = double check travel arrangements one week out, pre-pack two weeks out, travel supplies bought 1 month out, your passport needs to be updated or applied for at least 4 months out, reservations at hotels or B&B’s at least 6 months out, budget made 9 to 12 months out, get advice from a travel agent, etc…
Is it unreasonable that you could be in Paris next year? Hell no! If that’s what you want, make it happen. Highlight this : Goals don’t have to be about saving the whole world. They just need to be about saving your soul through the journey of reaching outside of yourself. Notice, it’s not about what others want, or about rushing to get to the end just to check it off our To-Do list. Goals are personal growth. The whole point is PLEASURE. It may take a little grunt work, but the uncontained joy and inner peace is worth it.
Next week I’ll show you some goals of other moms just like you. Are they monumental? Only to the individuals who made them. I want to share their goals because sometimes just thinking about taking on a new project seems daunting and I want you to see and feel how wonderful you are by taking the first steps.
Here is my goal : Finish chapter 28 “Mt. Everest = your To File pile; Getting Organized” of my book, Martyrdom Sucks, by the end of April. In order to do that I need to throw out 50 things! Yeah, you read FIFTY. And its 50 different things….50 paperclips don’t count. There is a super book and website dedicated to chucking physical and mental junk. Gail, the author, is a dream because she is honest about our clutter crap and how to get rid of it. If you’re like me and feel you need a little detox, check out Gail at http://www.throwoutfiftythings.com/.
Remember, goals are personal pleasure vehicles. You aren’t making goals for your kids or any other person or group (husband, mom, church, etc…). Goals are only for you, by you, in celebration of you. Share them with your best friend, your kids, and me! I look forward to hearing from you!!
Heather
“Cautious, careful people always casting about to preserve their reputation or social standards never can bring about reform. Those who are really in earnest are willing to be anything or nothing in the world’s estimation…and bear the consequences.”
-Susan B. Anthony
Goals. You need them more than the average person. Some days the goal is to not collapse. Some days to not drain your bank account and run away. Those are very worthy goals but short term (though it feels like an eternity that day) in the grand scheme of life. I want you to just sit for a few silent minutes of no TV, no kids, no dog, no partner, no washing machine, and no cell phone. Now close your eyes. Dream. It doesn’t matter if your dreams seem unrealistic or how big or small they are. They’re your dreams….let them flow!
“Without leaps of imagination, or dreaming, we lose the excitement of possibilities. Dreaming, after all, is a form of planning.” — Gloria Steinem
You may have to do this exercise outside of your home or job. I use my minivan a lot for thinking – just pull over (someplace safe, please) and write. Are you ready? Here we go!
1. What do you want to accomplish?
2. What would you like to try (just try, not become an expert)?
3. What do you look like doing those things?
Picture exactly what you are wearing, what the weather is like, how much light there is, what your muscles feel like doing the activity, your breathing, what can you smell, what do your fingertips and toes touch, what is the taste in your mouth. Become alive inside of your dream. Make it real.
Now write it all down (better to open your eyes for this). Every detail goes on the paper. For each dream, start a new sheet of paper (sorry to Mother Earth and the trees, but this is your life or death moment – you will die on the inside if you don’t have dreams and goals).
The difference between a dream and a goal are action steps. Dreams don’t come true unless you make an effort. Mini steps get you moving forward. There doesn’t have to be a rigid time frame, because in reality, we don’t know exactly what’s coming up for our kids (another luxury your “average” parents have in their blessings column) but you can work towards a date and adjust as needed down the line. The important thing is the Goal Due Date is set and the mini steps are laid out.
For example: if you want to visit Paris next year your first step is to set the date of your departure. Next answer the “who, what, and where”. Do you want to take someone with you? (You don’t have to, it’s not a law) Studying the travel books can give you ideas of where you’d like to stay and what you want to see. Some people like to work backwards on the calendar = double check travel arrangements one week out, pre-pack two weeks out, travel supplies bought 1 month out, your passport needs to be updated or applied for at least 4 months out, reservations at hotels or B&B’s at least 6 months out, budget made 9 to 12 months out, get advice from a travel agent, etc…
Is it unreasonable that you could be in Paris next year? Hell no! If that’s what you want, make it happen. Highlight this : Goals don’t have to be about saving the whole world. They just need to be about saving your soul through the journey of reaching outside of yourself. Notice, it’s not about what others want, or about rushing to get to the end just to check it off our To-Do list. Goals are personal growth. The whole point is PLEASURE. It may take a little grunt work, but the uncontained joy and inner peace is worth it.
Next week I’ll show you some goals of other moms just like you. Are they monumental? Only to the individuals who made them. I want to share their goals because sometimes just thinking about taking on a new project seems daunting and I want you to see and feel how wonderful you are by taking the first steps.
Here is my goal : Finish chapter 28 “Mt. Everest = your To File pile; Getting Organized” of my book, Martyrdom Sucks, by the end of April. In order to do that I need to throw out 50 things! Yeah, you read FIFTY. And its 50 different things….50 paperclips don’t count. There is a super book and website dedicated to chucking physical and mental junk. Gail, the author, is a dream because she is honest about our clutter crap and how to get rid of it. If you’re like me and feel you need a little detox, check out Gail at http://www.throwoutfiftythings.com/.
Remember, goals are personal pleasure vehicles. You aren’t making goals for your kids or any other person or group (husband, mom, church, etc…). Goals are only for you, by you, in celebration of you. Share them with your best friend, your kids, and me! I look forward to hearing from you!!
Heather
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